Thursday, April 26, 2012

错过?

有些事情就是那么极端,有些人没有对象也没人追,无从选择,那没话说;有些人呢太多人追,烦恼到不知该选哪位才是好。我有位朋友就是后者,她为这件事烦恼了一段时间了,始终不能做个了断。

‘甲’是她爱他比较多的人;  
‘乙’是他爱她比较多的人;   
‘丙’是她不爱,也没有讨厌,但却能够给她她要的幸福的人。      

她是位以长远关系为前提的女生,她爱甲,喜欢乙,却向往和丙未来的理想生活。
她不是贪心,她有做选择的权利。选谁都不是,她烦恼了。                              

我的个人看法是要她不要急着做选择。
她说,她没有急,不然也不会拖那么久,但她必需给他们个交待,应该说给她自己一个交代。
我再说:既然都不是你想要的,那就都不选咯。
她认为:你理想的那个未必是陪你一生的那个;陪你过一生的通常都不是你理想的那个。
(没错。)
我说:那你就三个选一个吧(其实,我想她内心已经有个答案,只是需要人给她一推、给她那么一点赞同和做决定的勇气)。
她说她清楚明白自己要什么,但是她觉得在遇到对的那个人之前,她需要经验,那她才会知道去寻找那个他适合她、她也适合他的“他”的方向。而如果她放弃了这次的‘机遇’她就会错过或失去了什么的。
(也没错!)

*理应:倘若她知道她要的是什么,她就不会让路边的野草给左右思绪了。
当然,我们究竟是凡人嘛,谁人没烦恼啊?

只能说,人啊难免就是怕错过这个错过那个,结果犹豫不决,蹉跎岁月,我也不例外。

不过,还是那句话,每件事情的发生都有它的意义,人生的每件事都是最好的安排没有错不错过的;只有你选不选择的,没有人能够参与身边发生的每件事,除非你有孙悟空的分身术,那就另当别论。而我们真正失去的只是我们的记忆,因为你不能失去你从来没拥有过的东西,不是吗?不属于你的就不是你的。

换个方式说,一个人因为买不到机票,上不了指定的那班机。飞机随后坠落,全军覆没。
你可以说他‘错过’了那班机,当然同时他也‘错过’了夺走他生命的机会。
又或者说,他没有‘错过’任何东西,因为他注定没得上那班机,否则,他会‘失去’他的生命。
纠正下,他没有错过任何东西,因为他注定没得上那班机,他也没有‘失去’任何东西,因为他注定活久一点。

当然,没有叫你认命,只是,当你说你失去或错过什么机会时就代表当时的你还准备好;那所谓的机会根本不属于你,也就是说你没什么好失去或错过的,等你准备好的时候,就是你大展身手的时机了,对,就是时机!

至于我的那位友人,如果真的要说错过,那她错过的就是等到那位最适合她的‘丁’出现吧,因为她在他们三人中做了个抉择。
她说我态度很硬、要求太高,或许吧,所以我还是一个人。我说,当我让自己准备好的时候,那个出现的人就是适合我的人;她说机会是要争取的。

我没有反驳,不是因为我赞同也绝对没有认为她说的不对。还是老话一句:看你怎么看咯。

p/s:
能够做到时时准备好当然是最好了,因为没有人能够确定下一秒钟会遇到什么人、什么事嘛!
愿她永远幸福快乐,人生如烟花般璀璨! 我嘛,继续钻牛角尖,呵呵。


(完)

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

一个人的时候

我喜欢独处,因为这时候的我思绪天马行空、可以和自己对话、怀念过去的一切、幻想未来的自己、做我想做的事情、做自己。

这个时候也是灵感来得最多最快的时候,让我可以update blog,或者写写日记。你没有看错,除了这里,我还有在笔记本上写日记的习惯,从前的我就很喜欢写日记,而且是手写的。可能有些人想说都什么年代了还手写。比起科技代手,我更钟情于手写。手写带来的成就感是无法形容的,我可以用我要的方式和速度一笔一画的写或者应该说画(鬼画符的画)。我特别喜欢中国字,因为每一笔、每一画都有它的意义。每每看回那笔迹时,中文字的带来的满足感往往都大于ABC的。更胜的是,当指尖触碰到那笔迹时,我能够回想当下写那篇文章的我是怀着怎么样的心情,有时候还可以摸到泪水造成的“凹凸不平”呢 (呵呵) 。你说,是不是很特别?

中国历史和中华文化很伟大,但是我最爱的还是我们的马来西亚。如果不以个人利益和政治为前提,或许今天的我们会更好。以前和外国网友谈起我的国家,他们大部分都不知道马来西亚的地理位置,有的更从来没听过马来西亚这个国家,但是我依然很proud的跟他们说了又说:“I am from Malaysia.” 因为我坚信有一天,全世界都会认识我们的国家,马来西亚(当然,不是以丑闻为主)。

今天,拿督李宗伟让马来西亚更接近世界,也让不同肤色的我们坐在体育馆、电视机前、或者mamak档一起为同一个目标欢呼。这时候大家不分你我,因为我们都是马来西亚人。

另一边厢,有人说黄明志Namewee煽动种族和宗教情绪,挑拨政治敏感话题,可能导致人民分裂,危害国家安全;我却认为他只是把实况用他的方式呈现出来,他没有要挑拨任何人,他只是让我们有宣泄压抑已久的情绪的空间和管道。有人说这有点极端,看你怎么想,还是这是外国人讲的‘this is just the last nail in the coffin’?

或许在敏感时期,我们能做的就是不要恶化情况,但是你认为一个成熟的人民会那么容易被他那一首歌影响吗?我承认,那首歌的确很娱人娱己,但这是两回事,不是吗?小时候,妈妈和老师不是说做错事要勇于承认,不要把责任推给别人,然后要反省、要改过自新吗?怎么大人们都不听话的?

几年过去了,这件事或许不再是大家饭后闲聊的话题,但是,问题根源一直存在,只是借用了其他管道和话题延伸下去。问题不会有不存在的那天,能做的只是不让它恶化,再用正确的方式慢慢改善。

我知道,你和我一样,我们都爱我们的国家,但是,马来西亚,你爱我们吗?

Friday, April 20, 2012

莲花


红花因绿叶而美丽,
明月因清风而深情,
偶尔不做主角也无妨。

٩(•̮̮̃•̃)۶

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Home-foods





Went back home days ago and had a homemade
'Bak Kut Teh' *
by mum... 

It's more than enough to bring away my sorrow. 
                                  谢谢你 妈妈

*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bak_kut_teh

Friday, April 13, 2012

Happy Birthday Chai Hong

Pretty sure that I must had done a lot of good things in my past life so that the good karma thingy is here for me no matter how negative I'm ( Or, most probably that my parents 'transfered' theirs to me, yes, MUST BE ! ).

I feel good when people treat me well, but at the same times I feel guilty and shameful, as I don't think that I deserve that much. Somehow I'm just too selfish to be good.

Keep reminding myself to appreciate what I have and never take all these for granted. Instead, I'm gonna put some efforts with everyone around me, it's never too late to improve I believe.

I'm a nobody, with limited capability and time, but I still hoping that what I'm doing benefits you one day. After all, I never doubt about us being here for each other, for a reason.

So, a big thank you to you for being here for me, yes, you, you, you and you. I love you.

By the way, wish myself Happy Birthday ! Hopefully this is not just an older me, but a more mature and well-rounded me =)


*PaPa, borrowed your birthday cake yea ;D


p/s: My biggest wishes is of course for PaPa & MaMa,
        wish you stay HEALTHY & HAPPY always!
       For you & I, DREAMS COME TRUE !
 
 

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

I need a change

When things happen in a constant negative manner, I know for a long time that something is wrong with me... I just don't have the gut to face it.

p/s: Doggie, is this how you usually look like, or, are you feeling down?


Saturday, April 7, 2012

Insider or Outsider

Sometimes I just can't stop wondering if I need to be an outsider so to allow myself to present the true story of the insider at the expense of friendships... like Dan Humphrey in the Gossip Girl...... 


Tuesday, April 3, 2012

A little chapter of my life

There is so many things in life that we wish to accomplish and yet not everyone manage to do it all when we are capable of. Journey to the Mount Kinabalu, at least for me, an indication of another beginning of me doing something that I really want and love to. Sometimes, things go better when you least expected it.

I love Mother Nature more than I could think of, even though I grown up in a kampung (small village). I was once being told that I don't appreciate the nature because I'm with the nature. 'Mr. Know it all', that's who you think I am, but I'm who I think I am. I appreciate your thoughts and critics, but after all, who are you to judge me. I don't have to show you my love towards anything, while maybe people these days only see what they want to see, and only believe what they want to believe.

To put it another way round, someone may post whatever he/she likes on Facebook, but that's only part of his/her life. It's too bad that majority of the people would judge him according to those posts, as in it's a whole life of him/her. Come on people, everyone of us has the right and freedom to share and not to, why must I being who you want me to be, rather than who I am?! You can direct me to take picture of this and that which I have no interest to but for your favour, maybe mine as well because I might learn, but  please not with your judgemental words of "Oh God, you people have no sense at all..." sort of. Remember that if everyone has the same interest, same sense and same set of mind, then what's the point of you keep telling the world that you are you, and me is me?

...well...can't stop wondering why am I wasting so much time on those negative thoughts and actions when the world out there is just so worth of my life, the worst thing is I realized it and did nothing to change.

The truth is, I'm a very simple person. Any sight of the nature is breathtaking enough to overwhelm my senses. Yes, any sight of it, I'm just so easily being satisfied. Or I should say that, the Mother Nature is just so incredible, every part of it is perfect in its own sense and everything is again perfectly inter-related. Oh man, now I miss the time I was studying Biology in the Secondary School and Form 6...well, not just now, I always do. It benefits me, throughout my whole life I dare to say.

If you think that I'm having a sudden fancy towards the nature because of the trip to the Mount Kinabalu, then I'll prove you wrong. This trip is, after all a platform for me to express myself once and again. Love doesn't just grow or lapsed.

Hopefully, the day that I have to choose between the nature and the developed will never come (in fact it's happenning everyday around me). To a certain extent, I admit that I need them both. Worst comes to worst, I'll die with the nature. But then, who am I to make the decision? At the end of the day, it's all about natural selection.


Last but not least, I'm grateful towards EVERYONE that I have met during this trip, which is too many of them to name of. Without your presences and helping hands, I'm no way here. Thank you, from me whole-heartedly.